Keen eyed readers may realise that this is not a new blog post it is one I wrote for my award winning business Jellybeans Music – I used to blog regularly when my boys were young then stopped as they objected to being identifiable. But, this was one of the most popular blog posts I ever wrote and to be honest it is as valid today as it was back in 2011 and when I thought about rewriting it, it felt a bit like reinventing the wheel
Our house has not been it’s usual noisy, happy place recently. Our youngest son is poorly with earache. He has been suffering since Thursday when we went swimming and he got ‘water in his ear’. We’ve been giving him the painkillers every two hours for what feels like years already and the nights have been awful for all of us – bringing back all those memories of having a small baby/toddler in the house who wouldn’t sleep and as he is now 8, these are not memories we like revisiting very much! We’ve been to see the emergency Doctor but nothing is helping and every time he accidentally touches his ear, he demonstrates that he has inherited his mother’s ability to ‘belt it out’.
However, as I ran his bath last night, he crawled onto my lap and I instinctively gently began rocking him from side to side. He smiled and snuggled in closer, then I heard the words, I haven’t heard for a long time, “sing love me mummy”. I started singing ‘his’ song and I felt his whole body relax.
Singing to your baby and child is a natural, organic process, one which we, probably instinctively, remember from our own childhood. There in no right or wrong way to do it. As I always say in class, your baby/child thinks your voice is the most wonderful sound in the world because it is you, the person who loves them. Your baby already knew your voice before they were born and knew that voice would protect them.
For me, this is the essence of song, the beauty of song, how it can make you feel, the emotions it can release, especially when combined with gentle, rhythmic skin stroking. So let me encourage you to think of a song that you will use as a ‘special’ song to use in times of stress, times when your little bean falls over, or are poorly. None of us like thinking about such times but they are a reality, especially when little beans first start walking and exploring the world. Please don’t think it has to be a lullaby, it can be anything you love but ideally should be gentle and soothing in feel. It should also be a song that you feel happy to sing over and over again and in public if necessary. It doesn’t even need to have words. It can be soothing just hearing repetitive notes.
Mind gone blank? Why not try these out and see how they feel, you will know when you’ve chosen the ‘one’
- Daisy, Daisy
- My Bonnie lies over the ocean
- Sing a Rainbow
- I just called to say I love you